Marriage Sucks -part 2

Easy things do not challenge, they say, but I rather take them easy, if I can. But marriage it is not an easy thing, never was, never will… Like I said before, people should not have to marry. In (almost) all existing social groups, whether we call them countries or cultures, marriage is not a free option. Very often it is not even an option. Marriage is taken as mandatory for the sake of societies (the so called socially organized groups) and it seems nobody wants to change that. Homosexuals not too! Damn it, in the name of who or what should we be receptive to this huge avalanche of actions taken by all gays and lesbians populating this world, ringing and belling on our ears their sexual orientation without even asking if we want or, at least, are keen on to hearing about them?

D. José Saraiva Martins, Portuguese cardinal resident in Rome, said one of these days that “homosexuality is not a normal thing”. He has then been severely criticized mainly by those who think that supporting homosexuality it is socially correct and turn them to be very “IN” people in the social groups where they usually sneak around. Homosexuality, nowadays, is not normal. “Normality” is always somewhat very discussable and is a point where very few people meet at. But let us be pragmatic (my best quality) and have a look at the famous Normal Distribution or Gaussian Distribution.

First of all, we have to believe that “Many measurements, ranging from psychological to physical phenomena (in particular, thermal noise) can be approximated, to varying degrees, by the normal distribution”. To believe in this is quite lot more important than to believe in God and, whether you like it or not, the respect to the concept of NORMAL has been driving our lives and social stability since time began. The normal, regarding sexual behaviors, hasn’t been the homosexuality and I hope it will be kept like that. Anyhow, between gays, lesbians, bi, undefined, eunuchs, inactive and straight, the values of percentage for the latter ones are the highest, as you can see where ever you go.

Gauss Curve for dudes!

If you look at the picture here below you will see that, for a specific study (no matter what about), something is considered NORMAL if you can place at least 68% of the population-target within limits -1 and +1, meaning, in the dark blue area. For your orientation, in S.Francisco, USA, proudly known as the world’s capital of gay & lesbian movements, only 16% of city’s population is homosexual.

Normal or Standard.

I would dare to say that, in fact, homosexuality is not normal, like well said by D. José Saraiva Martins who has been very unfairly criticized for such a statement. But I am not targeting sexual orientations in this post but social behaviors in general, marriage in particular. If homosexuality is not normal, same-sex marriage is a non-sense. The world is full of non-senses since human race exists and people no longer cares if there is one more. But we should care! Marriage was born on a natural concern about continuation of human kind. It is, in fact, an organizational tool of societies through what people are kept under a state of abiding but is also a tool for self-protection of people who need this kind of mechanism to be away from being manipulated by other. Marriage was born to be used as boundary of a specific life style which is intended to be the right environment for the good birth and development of new members of human race. Marriage was born and has survived on commandments, beliefs or dogmas created and maintained by several religions in the world. Marriage was born to be the insurance and warranty to the union between MAN and WOMAN! No religious or civil laws have ever had into consideration the same-sex marriage…

A homosexual orientation is primarily environmental and not biological ⁽¹⁾. Marriage is exclusively environmental. The NORMAL social environment has been, since mankind has started actions towards self-organization, based on man-woman-marriage-children links because that what used to make sense for humankind, on behalf of the animal side we cannot deny about ourselves. Same-sex marriage represents nothing more than the inability of homosexuals to run away from a system which was not created thinking of other sexual behaviors than the ones which make sense for a considerable majority of humans.

Homosexuality is not an issue here. Marriage is. The behavior of “homosexualists” in last decades is by itself a good reason for being against same-sex marriage. Gays and lesbians have offered us (nobody asked them!) shows which might be quite acceptable in the showbiz domain but not recommendable to children to whom the same-sex marriage may mean to force them to a NOT NORMAL social behavior, therefore deviated behaviors. Gays and lesbians are pretty much responsible for the idea of “circus of freaks” usually transmitted to everybody due to the style of their public manifestations. Nowadays you take contact very often, through actual media, with events where a salad of gays, lesbians, bis, queers, fagots, fairies, poofs, travesties, transgendered, third-sex representatives ⁽²⁾ is served to you by means of grotesque parades, Carnival-style, Pasolini-style TV shows and many other ways they use to show you they exist and are fighting for their own civil rights.

“The Right To Difference” sounds good but is not by itself a reason to accept same-sex marriage. Incest is a sexual behavior. Pedophilia is a sexual behavior. Both of them are highly different yet highly reproved by many societies (but not by all its members). What if I’d classify them not as a sexual behavior but as a disease? What if I’d classify them not as a sexual behavior but just as… a sexual orientation? I’d turn to be a target for hate and rage, wouldn’t I? Disease sounds bad and there are hospitals for that. Sexual behavior is not as bad but there are sociologists, psychologists and psychiatrists for that. Sexual orientation seems to sound nice and bearable, doesn’t it, Mr. and Ms. defenders of gay rights? Who knows if some bright and sharp brain one day decides to create a good and strong lobby and also, through TV shows and burlesque parades, succeed to get pedophilia and incest to be socially acceptable and very “IN” as well!

Children always are very much considered in management of social issues like pedophilia or divorce. But they aren’t when we are talking about same-sex marriage. A child born from and raised by homosexuals will probably be a homosexual. The pattern he/she will follow or will try to copy will be for sure the only one they live with and, naturally, a son of mothers will be a womanish male, a daughter of fathers will be a mannish female. Like pedophilia, same-sex marriage can turn to be practice of selfish behaviors whose surface is carefully and conveniently painted of altruistic intentions.

In opposition to the US military policy regarding homosexuality, “don’t ask, don’t tell”, I rather say let’s ask and tell the world what we think and what we intend to do about important issues in our life. There’s space in this blue round planet for another slice where people don’t need to pretend to be straight… If we can live with slices where, for instance, a woman is worth much less than a camel, why not another slice where men marry men and women marry women? But let children away from it…

Heterosexual orientation is primarily biological and not environmental. A man and a woman are born with the genetic message orienting them to the opposite sex. It can be changed by external factors, it can be molded by environment, it can be refined by culture. Marriage has nothing to do with biology because we can naturally keep attracted to the opposite sex and perpetuate life without getting married. Obviously, mankind doesn’t exist just for perpetuation of respective race. Mankind has a role much beyond that because mankind is supposed to be formed by intelligent members. Is marriage a demonstration of intelligence? We are so sickly intelligent, aren’t we?

This post is dedicated to all smart guys, from left, center or right, who think that same-sex marriage is more important than be patiently dying while waiting months or years for a medical appointment in a public hospital or just waiting for rice or beans. It is also dedicated to all smartasses, new-intellectuals like top-models and “aunts” showing off in almost big cities, rock & movie stars, fashion creators and fashion manipulators for whom the most important goal of their lives is to tell everybody they are gay and, while presenting that expression of extreme courage on their faces, they say how happy they are because they are assuming it publicly, they feel free and they expect all people will be like them and will dare to issue a public declaration of their gay state! How well married these people have shown to be or to become…

At least, consciences are woken up, once on a while, by a couple of Portuguese pontiffs when, surprisingly, they publicly state things like “be aware, young ladies, of dangers connected to the marriage with Muslim men” or “homosexuality it’s not a normal thing”. Well done, boys, well done ⁽³⁾.

May the gods be with you.